Dear Clients and Friends,
A wise friend once said to me: “If you want to know your future, study your present.” At this challenging moment, I’ve been moved by this phrase because no two “presents” are alike. In quarantine we are united by dramatic change, but our personal experiences have very different overtones.
For many of us, our initial burst of energy has given way to fatigue. In part, this is due to the continuous processing of emotions. We long for those who really get it and feel raw when they don’t. Sitting with strong feelings can be a lengthy process. The unmet desire for comfort and soothing can be painful and overwhelming. This leaves us inadequately resourced to metabolize our ongoing distress.
Very often I hear others dismiss their pain with a statement like, “I’m grateful, because I know it could be much worse.” I understand that caveat, but feel it sidesteps the very real impact of the turmoil at hand. What’s at stake is our resilience. How we handle present emotional overload is the real-time creator of the next now.
So what can we do? The very hardest thing: Honor our disturbing emotions.
We are programmed to do everything possible to staunch our pain. Yet when we scramble away from uncomfortable feelings, we deny ourselves the opportunity to learn the lessons they might impart. Stillness is a kind and powerful force that allows emotional disturbance to safely convey our story of longing and loss. There is a mystery to it. Pain we have harbored for years can finally dissipate when the forces that feed it are acknowledged and addressed.
When we are able to witness rather than withdraw from our grief, loneliness, anxiety, depression, and stress, our present becomes an entry point into presence. Even in times of great sorrow, there is an opportunity for release and inner spaciousness that restores more of ourselves. And each time we commit to this process, we strengthen inner resources so we may confront more of our deepest wounds moving forward. In this way, honoring our difficult experiences is not just an act of care and skill, but our most consistent investment in our future.
We are all coping the best we can right now, but help also helps. In my energy therapy practice, I hold space for you. By marinating emotions in time and tenderness so they feel more manageable, I facilitate crucial self-observation while taking off some of the associated pressure.
I have been so very honored to develop a sustaining and stabilizing practice during this challenging time, and hope you will reach out as you need.
I am here, virtually and in all ways. With folded palms,