Monthly Newsletter - October 2021
Have you ever attended a class, a meeting, or online course and at the end of it, you suddenly realized you still had a lot of questions? Yet, sometimes we ask questions but don't really want to hear the answer.  For example: how are you today?  

When we ask someone how they are doing, we generally do so in the form of a greeting and out of habit. However for someone struggling with a mental health issue, asking the right questions and truly listening to their answers can be lifesaving.

In this issue, you'll find eight tips for talking to someone about their mental health, as well as our recommended book and inspirational quote of the month.

If you would like to share your mental health journey or recommend a book to our readers, please email 

Remember, there is strength in sharing experiences and it is not a weakness to ask for or accept help. .

Our Mission
Speaking Candidly with Candace is on a mission to eliminate the stigma of mental illness by providing a safe place for people to share their experiences coping with mental health. You can listen to these stories on Speaking Candidly with Candace, available on all major podcast channels and find previous podcast episodes, articles, and mental health resources at
Inspirational Quote of The Month
"When you see something wonderful in someone, tell them.
It may take a second to say, but for them it could last a life time."
Eight Tips for Talking About Mental Health
1. Set time aside with no distractions

It is important to provide an open and nonjudgemental space with no distractions.

2. Let them share as much or as little as they want to

Let them lead the discussion at their own pace. Don’t put pressure on them to tell you anything they aren’t ready to talk about. Talking can take a lot of trust and courage. You might be the first person they have been able to talk to about this.

3. Don't try to diagnose or second guess their feelings

You probably aren’t a medical expert and, while you may be happy to talk and offer support, you aren’t a trained counsellor. Try not to make assumptions about what is wrong or jump in too quickly with your own diagnosis or solutions.

4. Keep questions open ended

Say "Why don’t you tell me how you are feeling?" rather than "I can see you are feeling very low". Try to keep your language neutral. Give the person time to answer and try not to grill them with too many questions.

5. Talk about wellbeing

Talk about ways of de-stressing or practicing self-care and ask if they have found anything helpful. Exercising, having a healthy diet and getting a good nights sleep can help protect mental health and sustain wellbeing. 

6. Listen carefully to what they tell you

Repeat what they have said back to them to ensure you have understood it. You don’t have to agree with what they are saying, but by showing you understand how they feel, you are letting them know you respect their feelings.

7. Offer them help in seeking professional support and provide information on ways to do this

You might want to offer to go the GP with them, or help them talk to a friend or family member. Try not to take control and allow them to make decisions.

8. Know your limits

Ask for help if the problem is serious. If you believe they are in immediate danger or they have injuries that need medical attention, you need to take action to make sure they are safe. 

If it is a family member or close friend you are concerned about, they might not want to talk to you. Try not to take this personally: talking to someone you love can be difficult as they might be worried they are hurting you. It is important to keep being open and honest and telling them that you care. It may also be helpful to give them information about organizations or people they can reach out to. 

- Excerpt from The Mental Health Foundation newsletter

 Book Review: Never Say You Can't Survive

Author Charlie Jane Anders

The therapeutic power of storytelling is often overlooked. This book offers lessons on both the power of writing to help you deal with stress and trauma and the practical steps of crafting a story. Where most writing books focus on techniques and rules, Anders focuses on emotion and healing. By the end, you’ll be ready to start creating your own fictional universe — and enjoying the mental and emotional benefits that it affords.

Latest Podcast: Putting Depression In Its Place
Click here to listen to our latest podcast with Charlottesville, VA radio personality Pam Garrison who talks candidly about how she became her own advocate for diagnosing and managing her depression.
We Want To Hear Your Story
Speaking Candidly with Candace is always seeking guests who would like to share their story in order to help others struggling with mental health. Click here to apply to be a guest on our show.

Benefits of Being A Guest

It's a way to own your success and to help others. Depending on the show, it may also be possible to promote your brand or business.

If you're considering hosting your own podcast or want to prepare for media interviews, speaking first as a guest will allow you to conquer your fear of public speaking and safely test the waters. 
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