Enough: Knowledge vs Feelings

Earlier this week - in our final few days of this extended family trip - something dawned on me that seems elementary, but ended up being pretty [personally] profound: the difference between Knowing what is "Enough" vs Feeling what is "Enough."

All of this should be viewed from what I've talked about before in the context of setting up finish lines in our lives - and for what led me to the decision to stop taking on new clients at the end of 2020 after defining what is personally Enough for us (brief refresher here).

Most of what I've talked about in this context is KNOWING enough. And this week I realized that Knowing is only one component. We also have to be aware of how we FEEL about it it.

And this feeling part is crazy volatile. 

The house we stayed in down in Florida was less than half the square footage of our home, and we just generally lived pretty simply. And for the first few weeks, my wife and I talked about how maybe we simply have too much of a house back home - that maybe we can (and should) do with much less. The kids were no less happy, and neither were we. 

Looking back at the sketch above, our dotted "Feeling" line was beneath the solid "Knowing" line. We were super content, purposeful, and at peace. 

Then we visited some family in a different part of the state, who live in a much wealthier area. All of a sudden I started questioning my decision to stop intentionally growing our income, starting envying some of the homes and cars and lifestyles I was seeing. 

The "Feeling" line swung above the "Knowing" line. And I was now envious, discontent, and comparing things and lifestyles to our own. 

The Knowledge line hadn't changed - I still knew what was Enough for us, but I didn't feel it. 

After our visit I was digesting some of these thoughts, somewhat shocked by the volatility of those feelings and thoughts. And as I processed it some more, I realized that when we are feeling "Above" the line, we're not in a great position to make decisions. 

When we're living "Below" the line, we're in a much better headspace and prime ourselves to make better decisions. 

I have a lot more thoughts that perhaps will make their way into a future Fident Friday - how to manage this difference, what contributes to the fluctuations, and what we can personally do to manage it.

Stay tuned - and stay aware of your feelings vs knowledge of your own Enough. 

Interesting Resources

"No more livin' for the culture we nobody's slave."

A Look Back at the Corona Crash
6 min read | A Wealth of Common Sense 
It's been a year already since the markets bottomed out from the Covid-fueled market crash. I always find it helpful to look back on stats and articles and feelings from events like this, because overtime we kind of forget. Ben Carlson does a great job doing just that here. 
See you next week. 

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