Tapping inner resources using the Nurtured Heart Approach®
Each of us has unique inner gifts to share with the world. I want to:
  • inspire educators, parents, and other caregivers
  • celebrate inner resources, and
  • share the journey of learning and living the Nurtured Heart Approach®.
Most of us get off track and refocus or regroup in some way in order to get back on track. When we address fears or doubts and access our inner wealth, we're trying to reset. It's important to recognize and celebrate our ability to reset as adults before we can expect this of children.
Included below are nuggets and resources useful to any NHA® practitioner. This is NOT a substitute for NHA training. Subscribe now!  
Check out the Wisconsin Education Innovations (WEI) offerings hosted by Verona Area School District including:
Notching Up the Nurtured Heart Approach® ​Mindfulness, Classroom Culture and Coaching June 21, 2018, 8:30-3:00
Sale Ends: Jun 14, 2018 12:00 PM CDT
5 seats remaining!
Participants will strengthen their understanding of the Nurtured Heart Approach stories and stands while sharing practices that support NHA living. Discussion and activities will be both personal and professional with a focus on practical applications that foster inclusive and safe schools.
Register Now!

Know Your Triggers

What makes you light up
and radiate energy? 

When Howard Glasser, creator of the Nurtured Heart Approach, visited the Verona schools in 2015, I remember feeling a passionate frustration related to a specific teaching situation. I asked him something like, "What if I just can't let go?"

He matter of factly told me I would eventually reset. "So why not do so as quickly as possible?"

While not his intention, that simple suggestion stung, making it a memorable moment. 

In his book, Igniting Greatness: Remembering Who We Really Are Through the Nurtured Heart Approach (2015), Glasser elaborates on the importance and process of feeling our feelings (the good, joyful, bad and ugly), breathing, and using the energy of emotion to propel positive and intentional decisions. 

I took Howard Glasser's advice and worked hard to reset with increasing efficiency. It's a process! Now, when I know I want to control others, feel misunderstood, or I have another reason to reset, I try to do so as soon as possible. He was right. After much practice, I can get to "eventually" much more quickly than before.

Reset and Welcome Back

Become solid with Stands 1 (no to negativity) and 2 (yes to positivity) before using resets with children. For example, I spent many weeks promoting a positive classroom climate, highlighting greatness, and engaging in conversations about inner wealth with my fourth and fifth graders. I also invited students to attend to and help shift negative energy. A huge part of the move away from negativity was my modeling of reset. We practiced resetting as a class before I used resets with individual students. 

The "welcome back" is the key to a reset. This is the energetic shift toward what's right in the moment following the reset. When you reset, take a moment to express appreciation for your effort. Experiment with reconnecting with children who have reset; reengage energetically with a focus on positivity.

What helps? What doesn't?

During the introduction of NHA, trainers pause to invite people to consider what does and doesn't help them to get back on track after being highly escalated, out of sorts, or feeling a heightened emotion. Let's say you lost an important document, spilled grape juice on a white suit, saw one of your children bite her brother, found a crack in your windshield...You probably have better ideas.  What helps and doesn't help you regain your composure? Below are the responses gathered from one workshop group. Notice how what helps one person may not help another.
  • Breathing
  • Verbal processing

  • Exercise

  • Growling/Swearing

  • Talking through it with a neutral person

  • Cooking

  • Quiet time

  • Leave the setting

  • Prayer/Meditation

  • Music

  • Space

  • Look away

  • Get help

Doesn’t Help

  • “Look at me”
  • Cooking

  • Unsolicited advice

  • “Calm down”

  • Being followed

  • Feeling boxed in

  • Being asked “What’s wrong?”

  • Forced process that tells me to “be happy”

  • Having my thoughts/feelings minimized, trivialized and undermined

  • Being alone

  • Given a demand/something to do

No one can force you to turn it around; no one can make you reset. It's personal. Studying our own reset style supports our ability to empathize. Just as adults, children need time and space to navigate the reset process.

Howard Glasser and Nimo Patel Coming to Verona, WI 

Link to Event Flier
The Verona Area School District is fortunate to have Howard Glasser's attention and support. Engage in the positive energy and music of Empty Hands', Nimo Patel, and learn directly from the creator of the NHA at this public event, Thursday, May 3, 6:00-7:30 p.m. at Badger Ridge Middle School.
We Choose
Between stimulus &

                                    there is a space.

And in that space is our power to choose our response.
In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

~Victor Frankl
The Nurtured Heart Approach is copyrighted material belonging to Howard Glasser and the Children's Success Foundation.
As stated above, the material in this newsletter is not a substitute for NHA training.
Copyright © Paula Wick, PhD. 2018 SHINE FROM WITHIN CONSULTING, All rights reserved.

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