How Making and Breaking Our Habits Helps Us (especially in crisis mode)

Our Routines and the Feeling of Being Safe

Confidence comes from action. Not the other way around.

What I mean by that is that we often wait until we 'become more [fill-in the blanks]' before we take one action or another:
  • 'I'll present my idea when I feel more confident'.
  • 'I'll start writing my book when I have more time'.
  • 'I'll talk to them when I wake up one day and feel great and ready to talk'.
What happens is, the more we don't do anything to 'get us' there, the less chances we have to actually get there!
It's like wanting to go on a trip and not even leaving the house.
I think you got the picture, especially now, when we all #stayhome.

The reason action is important is because it creates habits that, in turn, give us results.

If I never even start presenting, I have no habit of speaking in public and haven't experienced any results.
Because I get no results, there is no feedback for me that would make me feel any more confident tomorrow compared to today.
And so I wait another day to 'become more confident'.

When I start doing something, I get feedback and can adjust on the way.
I keep doing it until I get better, or I change something so I get better.
Either way, I'll start creating a habit.

Now, habits are important on their own, and also because they bring rewards with them. On this note, I recommend Charles Duhigg's book "The Power of Habit - why we do what we do in life and work'.

Rewards make us FEEL good.
When I start doing something and see that I'm getting better at it, I will feel more confident, more engaged, more motivated to keep doing that and improving myself.

In this current crisis, we found some of our old habits broken by external forces - for instance, having coffee with our colleagues in the office. Of course, the 'feel good' there is not the coffee itself (well, that too:)), but the socializing part of it.

What we miss most in this crisis are mostly simple things that we used to do and now can't do anymore.
Simple daily habits. Our routines.
Our feeling of safety and connection when we did the things that gave us our daily rewards.

But hey, the good news is: it's up to us to make or break our own habits. It's up to us to replace the old habits with new ones that would give us similar rewards.

We can still choose to have our morning coffee with our colleagues, online. Or lunch once a week. Or ask about a fancy recipe, the same way I would have if I met you on the hallway in the office.

So, here are a few questions to help you make or break your habits.

It's always going to be up to us to decide what we START, CONTINUE or STOP doing so we keep feeling safe and connected.

So we feel we matter.
Email me to share your 'making or breaking a habit' story

Learning Is a Habit - Free, Online

Free E-Learning for Your Teams

As I already told you in a previous issue, All Personal is a Gold Partner to Chart Learning Solutions, the world leading blended learning company in soft skills.

As these are unprecedented times, we're looking to help each other as much as we can.

Based on the top needs right now, we're happy to offer three FREE courses:
  1. How to Work from Home
  2. Health and Well-Being
  3. Hygiene – Infection Protection and Control
You can get access either through the CHART learning platform or as part of your own company LMS.

If you need some inspiration on what skills you could 'upgrade' during these times, I've also asked Peter Horwing, CEO of Chart Learning solutions:
'What are other top courses people request from CHART right now?'
'It actually depends on what they focus on. It can be the complete Leadership program, Sales and / or Services. Sometimes they just want to focus on a specific topic like Change Management.'

Email me if you'd like to start a new learning habit and up-skill yourself and your team!
Email me and get your free online courses

Crisis Management - Voice of Experience Interviews

Some of Our New Habits Are Here to Stay

As you well know by now, I'm speaking to professionals across industries to ask for their approach to work during this time.

I've had the pleasure to speak to Darrell Pinto, VP Research and Industry Advancement at the Canadian Venture Capital and Private Equity Association, and also Co-chair Refugee Jobs Roundtable. And as we're talking about making or breaking our habits, here are some brilliant ideas he shared.

1. What new habits have you put in place that help you work from home in this crisis better?

'I have always been an active networker with a strong preference for in-person coffees / lunches / meetings, so feeling isolated after only one week of working from home during the COVID-19 lock down, I was forced to overcome my reluctance to use digital video platforms and started hosting virtual dinners with small groups of people within my network.

Roxana’s webinar on “Are you Zoom-ing right? all you need to know about virtual meetings / interviews” was timely, as I was learning on-the-fly how to feel and curate comfortable virtual experiences.

What started slowly as I learned to overcome my own self-consciousness being in front of a camera has evolved into a fun way to keep feeling connected.

It’s also been a way to transform the way I volunteer as I intentionally invite at least one newcomer / refugee to each virtual dinner as it gives them the opportunity to meet new people and extend their network during a surreal time.'

2. Which of the new habits you have now set in place you would like to keep in the ‘new normal’ after the crisis?

'These virtual dinners have become the highlights of my week and I will definitely keep them going on a less frequent basis once this crisis is over.

Nothing can ever replace face-to-face interactions for me, but meeting people virtually has some undeniable benefits:
  1. there is no commute required so it is so much more efficient, and
  2. it easily extends my potential guest list to folks living outside my immediate downtown Toronto geography (I’ve had guests from Winnipeg and New York join).'
Share your 'voice of experience' tips

How to Prepare Before Your Next Virtual Meeting

Short Video Interviews with Steffi Black

Steffi Black is a Life & Career Coach, Culture Strategist and Kindness Advocate, Presenter, and a business owner since 2010.

We did a live 'prep' session on how to best prepare before your next virtual meeting.

She had brilliant questions to ask and we hope this series of short videos helps you, too!

When I say short, I mean this:
  1. Sound - 13.46' (I know, long...)
  2. Angle, Lights, Image - 9.25' (better, right?)
  3. Background - 3.38' (right?)
  4. Internet Connection and Communication Platforms - 7.13' (I know, but these are 2 topics, that's the excuse)

Please share your feedback and questions either directly in the YouTube comments or by emailing me.
Watch the short video series here

Virtual Lunch & Learn - Listening to Understand

A Break from Crisis Mode,
a Dive into Care Mode

When we talk about communication, we refer to a diversity of ways that allow us to express ourselves – speaking, gesticulating, dancing, singing, painting, drawing, even simply making eye contact.

All good forms of communication, all helping us to express who we are, what we want to say, what we like or don’t like, how we think.

In this virtual lunch & learn, we’re not going to talk about communication as we most generally perceive it.

We’re going to turn tables and start with one form of communication that we usually disregard, dislike, downgrade or deny.
It’s called listening.

Join this webinar and learn about:
  • Listening levels
  • Listening techniques you can use to have meaningful conversations
  • Applying listening techniques to mentor the next generation of leaders

Register below & remember to BYOL (bring your own lunch).

Register here and see you April 22, 12 pm

Quarantine Self-Development

Free One-Stop-Shop: New Resources

Keeping in line with making our own new, healthy habits, I added new resources on our special Crisis Management page:
  • Esther Perel's 'How's Work' podcast - amazing episodes, and a special one with Adam Grant (you don't want to miss it, I promise!)
  • Brene Brown's 'Unlocking Us' podcast - brilliant way to develop your emotional intelligence (and a brilliant title for lock-down times, I might add)
  • Mental health resources for schools and workplaces (from home)

Enjoy and please email me if you'd like to share new helpful resources for this page.
Access all resources in our One-Stop-Shop

Skills Muscles Workouts for You

Our Skills Are Just Like Muscles

Yes, I know, I've said that so many times! But it's true! And if you've listened to just a few of the All Personal Podcast episodes, you already know what my amazing guests said.
All you need to do is start training your skills muscles the same way you train your body muscles to keep them in shape. That means NOT just once a year! It means regular practice.
Because that's what learning is all about. Learning is a habit, not an event.
So here you are, your All Personal Skills Workouts.

Imagine. Believe. Become.

The decision is yours.
All Personal workouts for your skills muscles
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