Hello, my dear.✨

This is probably my last letter of 2020 so I want to end it with a reflecting and powerful exercise: A letter to 2020.

The idea comes from Catherine Andrews, creator of the Sunday Soother - a wonderful resource for self-care and self-reflection.

Catherine is a life coach and suggests to use the act of writing a letter to "process growth, heal grievances, release what needs to be let go, and allow [ourselves] to speak into the world things [we] may have been holding on to out of fear."

While therapeutic letter writing usually serves to help us heal and process relationships, Catherine Suggests we can have relationships just as well with a year or an era, as we have them with people.

2020 was definitely one of my most challenging years and Catherine's idea to process it through a traditional letter is lovely and spoke to me instantly. On her page and Instagram, she prepared several prompts to help formulate the letter. I started mine based on these prompts and allowed the process to take me further.

I originally planned to publish the letter here but it became too personal so instead, I'll tell you a little about the process.

The prompts Catherine gives seem simple and not overly soul-searchy. Nevertheless, while I answered some quickly, I spent a lot of time on others:

The venting was easy. It was easy to answer I'm so angry that you... and I wish to forgive you for...

Most things on the positive side of things, however, felt difficult. It took me a little to extrapolate what I learned from 2020 and even more what I may miss about it.

The more satisfying it was to have the answer written down in the end and realize there were actually SO MANY good things about this year.

I even figured, when I put the pandemic and my cabin fever aside and focus on my achievements, writing, and business instead, 2020 was one of my best years.

Overall, therapeutic letter writing is a wonderful ritual and this exercise came at the right time. I felt frustrated and bereft in the past days. It helped me put things back into perspective, detach 2020 from the pandemic and see it for what it is: a multifaceted year that came as a bumpy ride but personally, also brought a lot of joy and progress.

Here are further prompts I added to Catherine's suggestions:

Dear 2020,

  • Pandemic aside, you were...

  • In spite of everything, you helped me achieve...

  • If I could relive one day of you, it would be...

  • How I would describe our relationship in 3 words is...

  • What you changed about me is...

I admit I'm a sucker for NYE and the beginnings of new years. I love to celebrate it and combine it with rituals like this one. I hope you found this ritual inspiring. If you have other end-of-year-rituals keep them coming - I'd love to hear them!


Things I enjoyed in the past week:

🗞️ Article: 7 Ways to Find a Life-Changing Podcast
Great ideas here. I never had difficulties to find great books or movies but was never a big podcast listener - until recently. 

🐙 Podcast: Ologies with Alie Ward
Speaking of podcasts - I'm absolutely in love with this one. In Ologies, Alie Ward invites a new "ologyst" every week - scientists who specialize in certain niche-fields in the world of animals and plants. It' so interesting and entertaining. I already listened to selachimorphology (the study of sharks), condorology (the study of condors and vultures) and acarology (the study of ticks) and - believe it or not - the latter was the most interesting one and I almost learned to appreciate ticks.

📚 Book & 🍿 Mini-series: Defending Jacob by William Landay
I read this gripping thriller a few years ago and was excited when I learned it came out as an 8-part mini-series. I'm at episode 3 now and watch it with my boyfriend who hasn't read the book. It's equally exciting for both of us and luckily I don't remember every detail anymore. 

🏯 Spiritual journey: The Shikoku Pilgrimage by Emergence Magazine
This is probably the closest I've come to travel in the past months. A wonderful journey created by Emergence Magazine which leads us through 9 Buddhist temples of the Shikoku pilgrimage - a circular route around the Japanese island of the same name.

👾 Article: Reclaim Your Focus and Wellbeing by Rediscovering the Joys of Play by May Pang

May Pang shows us how to play again, what to play, and how it can help us in intense and uncertain times. It's a long article and bursts with great ideas.

Finally, I want to wish you a merry Christmas (if you celebrate it) and a great start into the new year. I'll be back in January.❄️


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