Hello my, dear.✨

As a natural night owl, I was at war with mornings for most of my life. I have serious trouble waking up early. With the constant feeling of sleeping for too long and wasting my day, I was never good at a morning routine.

When I started to read loads of self-help books and follow self-proclaimed gurus online this turned into a full-blown self-worth crisis.

If you believe the mainstream advice of successful people there’s no way you’ll ever become something if you don’t wake up early and kick off your day with a life-changing and science-backed morning routine. You need to win the day, after all.

According to transformational power-headlines, a morning routine will make you unstoppable, more successful, change your life, make you thrive, a high achiever, and help you build a billion-dollar business, among others.

I went on to race against the sun more often than I can count. I tried the alleged panacea of early waking and a powerful morning routine to set me up for success. Guess what, I lost every time after a few ambitious mornings.

The pressure, demand, and high expectations were enough to keep me awake all night. The next day, I was as groggy, unproductive, and as routineless as ever.

To solve this internal conflict, I researched chronobiology, sleep cycles, and crippling insomnia. My scientific results show I’m done with this BS.

Don’t get me wrong. To wake up at 5 am to have two hours for a full-blown wet dream of a morning routine including meditation, journaling, exercise, and a cold shower can be beneficial for some.

However, it’s by far not the ultimate solution for everyone and to claim otherwise is useless at best and harmful at worst. Only around 40% of the population are morning people. The rest are either nocturnal or fall somewhere in between. 

That said, you can still have fun after you wake up, even if it’s at 10+ am. In fact, I hereby permit you to do so without a bad conscience. You didn’t waste your day. You’re just starting.

After a lot of trial and error, I finally have a selection of morning activities I enjoy.

They’re not borrowed from Elon Musk or Steve Jobs. I don’t expect them to make me rich, productive, and powerful. In the end, these are pleasurable ways to start a day that often seems too hard to handle.

You can have a look at them here:

15 Fun Morning Routine Ideas For People Who Hate Mornings.


Things I enjoyed in the past week

Note: You can find all articles and books I read, podcast episodes I listen to, and movies I watch on my virtual Bookshlf (the place where I list all digital content I consume).

🍬 Article: The Sticky-Sweet Story of Cotton Candy by Rebecca Rupp in National Geographic
This is a feel-good article about the history of cotton candy. Did you know it was invented by a dentist? That it's one of the healthiest things you can probs have on a fair? That it's the sugar-version of glass? You can read all about it here. I found this on Ben Kageyama's Food Stories-Bookshlf.

📚Book: The Antidote - Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking by Oliver Burkeman
This book opened my eyes to so many issues about our relentless chase for happiness and positivity. It dives deep into the Stoic philosophy and explains with humor how happiness never arrives in the form of positive thinking and affirmations. I highly recommend it to everyone who desperately wants to love themselves and be more optimistic. You'll breathe a huge sigh of relief after this.

🧊 Document:
This is a brilliant list of highly unusual icebreakers. They go a lot further than the usual What do you do for a living? kind of fluff. The latest one: ‘How does your family / your culture cook rice?’ I found it via the Art of Noticing-newsletter.

💌 Letter:
Boy on Fire by Nick Cave in The Red Hand Files
This is Nick Cave's beautiful letter to everyone who doubts their art, talent, and creativity. 

"[A]ny competency I display now, such as the ability to write, record or perform songs, came about through repetition and practice and a bloody-minded pursuit of my own particular vision. Nothing came naturally. I worked at it.

Art gives much, but it asks much in return. It demands nothing less than complete commitment and significant sacrifice. Talent is nice if you have it, but in some ways it is a secondary requirement."

🌍 How to Write About Africa by Binyavanga Wainaina
A fantastic satire about all possible clichés non-African writers indulge in when they tackle Africa. It would be hilarious if it wasn't so true.


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